So, I am a 36-year-old woman who has battled cancer on two different occasions – a battle I pretty much fought on my own with no one there to hold my hand or pay for the disease that I didn’t ask for. Nonetheless, cancer has never been an excuse to not LIVE LIFE! I have tried and done everything to continue on the journey I believe God sets before us. So, I was always able to press forward and never give up the fight…YAY!! I am cancer free and living life more and more every day, except I’m still alone.
It’s funny, you always think that surviving something such as cancer will enable you to think you can have anything you want, but what I realized is I’m afraid to “BE LOVED”. I did so much on my own that I have become afraid to allow people in my life. And now that I am able to do more things and live in a way I was unable to live with my cancer it’s as if I have become crippled with fear – especially in dating. And here’s why: Who can possibly love someone who financially has very little to offer. Cancer is not cheap. I’ve become someone who’s afraid of telling someone I may not ever be able to have children. Maybe that hurts me more than I realize. I just feel very insecure and helpless. I don’t know what to do to make my lonely heart feel better. Any Suggestions?
I can’t even begin to imagine how much strength you had to find within yourself to go through that, and especially to go through it alone. I may not know you, but I am incredibly happy to hear that you are healthy now.
So, to be honest, this is a very tough question for me to answer. I can immediately answer most questions I’ve received because I’ve either been through the situation, or I can relate in even a small way. I cannot relate to how you feel because I’ve never been through it, but an outside perspective always helps a little, doesn’t it?
I wish you wouldn’t look at yourself as someone that is unworthy of love simply because life dealt you a bad hand for a while. You deserve to be loved and taken care of just as much as everyone else in this world does. And, that means being loved regardless of your past experiences, and regardless, especially, of your financial situation. Money comes and money goes, but if you can give your heart to someone and readily accept another person’s, that connection is worth more than our national debt! You don’t date someone because you can offer them money. You date them because you can offer them the best of yourself, and right now you ARE your best self.
Anyone would be very lucky to befriend or date such a strong woman like yourself, and I’m sure many people admire you for how you handled your situation. You have a lot to offer, and I bet you also have a lot you could teach a person.
Don’t feel insecure about your situation. Everyone has their insecurities because no one is perfect. Even if you have to fake self-confidence for a little while, go ahead and fake it! Eventually, you’ll realize that this confident woman you’re portraying is who you really are anyway – not the woman that’s afraid of love. Wouldn’t it be worth it to at least give it a try? Remember just one of the laws of attraction: Love and respect yourself and others will love and respect you. Believe in yourself now like you believed in yourself and your strength when you were fighting that battle. When someone comes around, and they will, and they want to be there for you, let them. You deserve it. We all do.