I’ve only been talking to and dating this woman for about two months. I’d say we’re getting serious, but we still aren’t 100% exclusive. Neither of us have quite talked about or made that commitment yet. I know Valentine’s Day is this coming weekend, and I know it’s a little late, but should I make plans to celebrate it with her? Should I buy her a gift? I’m not necessarily afraid of giving off the wrong impression because I do think I’d like to make this an exclusive relationship – it’s just that I don’t want to scare her off if she isn’t quite ready.
In my world, any relationship I’ve been in that lasted even two weeks became a relationship of at least three years. When ya know, ya know. I would bet that if this woman has been with you for two months, she probably does see this as a committed relationship.
So, if you’d like to continue on with her and see it progress positively, you should throw on a mesh tank-top, some red Reebok high-top tennis shoes, stick on a Tom Selleck mustache, and jump into a time machine. Go back to about seven days ago and make dinner reservations at a nice restaurant. (Sometimes those machines can be a little wishy-washy, so I want you to dress appropriately for any time machine errors.) No access to a time machine? That’s okay. Burger King just might have a romantic corner table left for you. Get extra Buttermilk Ranch dipping sauce. I’m pretty sure it’s an aphrodisiac.
I’m assuming you guys haven’t let the L-Word numb your gag reflex yet, so I wouldn’t go all out on an elaborate gift. Some beautiful flowers and a card would be nice. Bonus points if the card doesn’t start off with “Roses are red”. You know, because second grade was a long time ago.
If you can get dinner reservations, step on it. Women love to dress up and go to dinner; even if it’s just with a friend. If you’re unable to do so, you can always take her to an upscale bar for some drinks and appetizers.
Most importantly, and this goes for ALL men, at ANY stage of your relationship: Do something, anything for your girl. This is usually a very emotional day for women, and one that most men understandably wish didn’t exist. But, I’ll tell you what…If you let this day slip by without so much as a card, next Valentine’s Day you’ll be making plans with the boys.
*Want to be extra cool this weekend? Do something nice for someone who may not have a Valentine. Check this out: Be a Gift on Valentine’s Day