I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years now. We are living together, although, we live with his family. All we do is fight. He is 21 years old and is obsessed with video games. He never wants to spend time with me. He has limited me to two days a week where we can spend time together. I love him to death, and I don’t want to leave him, but I’m not happy. Everyone has told me to talk to him about my feelings. I have, and it starts an argument. I would really love it if you could help me. I feel lost.
Look, it’s possible to love someone to death, but that doesn’t mean you should be in a relationship with them.
Let me try to figure out which of your statements is the reason you want to be with him:
1.) All we do is fight.
2.) He is obsessed with video games.
3.) He never wants to spend time with me.
4.) He has limited me to two days a week.
5.) I’m not happy.
What’s this business about him limiting you to time spent with each other? Oh, hell no! He may be limited to seeing one-way streets in his video games, but in real life, they go two ways. Your way and his way. (And when you get married…your way and your way.) Oh, that’s mostly just a joke.
Massacring zombies is something men apparently must do sometimes to maintain their sanity; however, if he’s pushing you away and spending way more time lovingly caressing his Xbox controller, he may have already mentally checked out of the relationship. Tell him you love him, but let him know you aren’t happy. If he doesn’t have the cojones to respond, I suggest you grow your own female version of cojones and
ask him straight up if he wants to be together. I truly hope he gives you the courtesy of a serious talk. If he fights with you and refuses to give you an answer like a grown-up, well, I know that would be all the answer I need.